Finding gentle ways to care for yourself after sexual abuse
Sexual abuse can affect the way we feel about our bodies, our sense of safety and our relationship with ourselves. Finding ways to feel comfortable in our bodies again can take time, and this will look different for everyone.
A recent BBC News article explored the work of Dr Prathiba Batley, whose performance 1,000 Papercuts uses dance, spoken word and music to explore her experiences of sexual abuse. Through movement and creative expression, she opens up space to explore difficult experiences and challenge the expectations placed on women.
Her work is a reminder that movement can be about more than physical exercise. It can be a way to express ourselves, release tension or simply make space for how we are feeling.
Finding what works for you
Research into trauma-informed yoga suggests that, for some survivors, gentle movement can support wellbeing, self-compassion and a greater sense of connection with themselves. However, there is no single approach that works for everyone, and movement is not always comfortable or accessible.
For some people, this might mean trying yoga or gentle stretching. Others might enjoy going for a run, dancing to a favourite song, taking a walk outside or simply moving in whatever way feels natural. Even something as small as stretching your hands, relaxing your shoulders or giving yourself a hug, if that feels comforting, can be a way of offering yourself some care.
There is no need to achieve anything or to move in a particular way. You do not need to push yourself to feel better, and you can stop whenever you want to. If focusing on your body feels difficult, it is okay to find other ways to look after yourself.
Care without pressure
For survivors, the ability to make choices about their own bodies can be especially important. You might find it helpful to gently notice what feels comfortable, what does not, and what you need in that moment. You are allowed to change your mind, take a break or decide that something is not for you.
Looking after yourself does not have to mean doing more. Sometimes, it means resting, spending time with someone you trust or allowing yourself to do very little at all.
There is no right way to heal, and you do not need to reconnect with your body on anyone else’s timeline. Whatever self-care looks like for you, you deserve to approach yourself with kindness, patience and respect.
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