Into the Light blogs


Guilt and Shame – A Big Difference

Some people believe that shame and guilt are the same but there are differences: Guilt And Shame There are two types of shame: Legitimate Shame or Guilt: When we have made a bad choice: “Healthy guilt is the emotional core of our conscience. It is emotion which results from behaving […]


Sarah Is Raising Funds For Us!

We are delighted to let you know that Sarah is going on a hike to Ben Nevis to raise funds for us. Take a look at her fundraising Page and support her if you can! Here is the Link; Please copy it into your browser and the page will come […]


Escaping Into Fantasy ….To Protect From Pain

Hiding from the abuse takes effort – blocking it out of our minds means that we are not living in true reality because it is too painful – which means we have to live in denial or unreality and may enter into fantasy and escapism. Fantasy is the classic way […]


Shame: Give It Back: It Really Isn’t Yours To Carry

Way Out Of Shame When we start to make our way out of shame our relationships  and lives have a much better chance of being fulfilling and open. Victims of sexual abuse often look back at the situation and think I could/should have done something. It is very important to […]


Taking Control of Sex After Sexual Abuse

  Perhaps not surprisingly if you have experienced sexual abuse or violation, sex itself can be extremely confusing and perhaps even emotionally and physically painful.  There is so much to say about this but we would like to share some of our learning with you that could be helpful. During […]


Boundaries: Getting A Good Sense Of Self

Boundaries In Relationships Good boundaries mean we can be intimate and close and yet not loose a sense of ourselves. This means you can be attached and yet separate – a person in your own right. In relationships with bad boundaries you may give up feelings, ideas and opinions, but […]


Into the Light blog

We’re starting an Into the Light blog to share information and stories around sexual abuse, that we hope will be helpful for our website visitors. We’ll be covering subjects like shame, taking control of sex after sexual abuse and boundaries.